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“Don’t spit and trash me, believe, I too belong to you”- I am the Road

City LifeI quote “My beliefs will run through everything I do. My beliefs, my values are my anchor and when people try to drag me, as I know they will, it is to that sense of right and wrong, that sense of who I am and what I believe, to which I will always hold.” Ed Miliband.

Here today I want to talk about a striking contrast concept, invisible to the conscious mind. The role our beliefs and our Indian values play in shaping the face of our cities, towns, roads, and our villages. Ever wondered why can’t India have beautiful sparkling spotless clean cities, towns and villages?

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I believe it has to do a lot with our morals and values which we hold within.

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The above quote is so relevant, our beliefs shape our destiny and shapes each and every decision we undertake. And more interestingly the common beliefs of the society, community and the country will shape the destiny of the society. The common belief defines the way the country thinks, behave and works together. It surprisingly also plays an important role and controls the subconscious decisions in how our cities, towns and villages will look, how well our roads and dams will be constructed and maintained.

In a country like India, spirituality and religion dominates in shaping our beliefs and values. Some Indians may argue that they are not religiously inclined or spiritual headed. However living in an environment of religiously bended society, ideas and thoughts do get moulded beyond one’s control and knowledge.

So, let me explain how I am trying to join the elements of spirituality and the state of infrastructure our country .

Most religious and spiritual sects in India talks about happiness and tranquility of the inner self. Focusing and looking inwards is defined as a path to accomplish all material and immaterial happiness in the universe. The belief defines that the universe exists within you, and there is nothing outside, which the mind wanders for. We clearly can find this belief ingrained in a large number of population residing throughout the lengths and the breadths of the country.

This is idea is an incredible thought and provides limitless strength to individuals. Also in many occasions in the history, inner self focus belief has proven to be instrumental in drawing the country out of misery and depression.

However there is flip side to the idea, and as mentioned earlier beliefs run through everything that we do. As we (Indians) are “inward looking beings” our energies and minds are focused on the insides not the outsides structures of our country. Our conscious and the sub conscious mind owns the inside of the house and disowns the road on which the grand building is monumented.

The nation on the outside is like an overflowing bin, where you find rotten bits of leftover food lying on the pavements, incomplete and open drainage work waiting for months to be finished. Citizens defecating on the roads, buildings or any where they choose to.

However inside each house you will find  beautiful carved welcoming doors,  creeping staircase flowing through the house, 

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elegant big windows where natural light sweeps in, Enchanting designs and painting on the walls to swipe the senses away, antique wooden sculptures laid in.

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Every house displays creativity, innovation and design. The house of any middle class household or higher talks about the taste and flavours of life of the people residing in that house.

Malls and shopping arcades are built with perfect specs to offer a visual treat to the eyes, inside offer luxurious multi- expensive products from around the globe.

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But stands on filthily roads on the outside.

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Yes, we have a keen liking for cleanliness and beauty but it only limits to our defined boundaries.

Unfortunately the road and the areas beyond our belief  boundaries belong to someone else the king, the monarch, the municipality, the government or maybe NOBODY. The outside is brutally treated and trashed, spitted and abused. Everyone living in the society disowns the road that we live in, the road that we drive on everyday to work. People treat their office, their school, college, or gym as their shrine and that’s where it ends. Nobody cares about everybody’s land the “Road!!”.  And the poor, disowned, barbarically used “road” stood for years and is still waiting to be owned by its citizens someday.

We can’t achieve a beautiful outdoors by waiting for the government to set up “Clean India Movement” and wait for a day to see some people employed to clean the road only to see it trashed up again, we need to alter our belief system by linking the outside of our houses the public parks, parking lots, roads to our own environment in our minds first.

We need to link the outdoors as something equally important to us think it as our own and start paying attention to it poor state, start believing that the road which bears my house, office, shop also belongs to me. And it is not just something broken inside my house which draws attention and needs to be fixed but also the broken road and open sewer needs to be looked after by me.

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Big problem, Creative solutions, let’s keep sending our children to school

Every child has a story to share a song to sing. Whenever I look into their innocent eyes, I see fairytales of the future. On one such day, I narrate the songs in the little child’s eyes.

Childhood the blissful years of my life.

All I need is a big bright smile.

I jump, lay and run all day long, singing the merry go round song.

My days go by running in the meadows, hunting wild butterflies.

My favourite, is playing silly peekaboos.

Up I go in the slide trying to reach the sky.

Chasing my dreams, wearing mom’s high heels.

I walk to my school jumping in a messy water pool.

But, as soon I walk down the streets, on my way to work, I see a huge population living on the edge of the street. These people look different, we live in the same time zone yet it looks, like they live in a different decades. There are kids who are not going to school, working hard to make ends meet. I peep into these young eyes. I see a different story.

I am young, I believe I am small.

I wonder, if I really have to be in a big long factory hall.

I work all day long, in the dark tarnished room.

My heart cries for one last game of peekaboo.

If I could get a chance, out in the meadows running behind the butterflies.

Sitting under the sunshine, glancing at my soar hands and looking up in the sky.

I wonder, will I be a little child? For I was grown up even before I was five.

Dear heavenly father, if you could grant me a wish, grant me I should go back to school.

These little eyes said the same story every day and pierced my heart every time I cross pass ways with them. So, one day for my heart’s peace, I found myself talking to the children’s parents and trying to encourage them to send their kids to school and if could save even one small life from being ripped into the vicious cycle of labor and pain. I was surprised to know, a lot of them are keen on making their kids educated and ensure a good life for them. However, many of them complained that when they sent their kids to school, children ended up falling sick very often and ultimately didn’t go to school.

I wanted to learn more about this and inquired with a friend of mine, who teaches in a local government school. I couldn’t believe my ears for the reasons I discovered for children not going to school. It seemed so irrelevant to hear, but it had a huge impact. As children play, learn and write with white chalks at school. And class time is followed by meal times with no proper hand wash routine for little children. Pre-meal hand wash means only a quick rinse under the water, many children at times also tend to miss out on the rinse before eating.

And along with their meals at school little children end up eating the germ’s and fall sick.

And parents find it very difficult to keep up the medical expenses.

A truly disheartening fate for the future generation. The blossoming children are robbed their childhood only because of an incomplete hand wash!! After having known the reasons of dismay for children on the streets, on my way back I was still drowned in their thoughts and to looks for answer I started browsing my phone. Something struck my eyes, I came across a quote on creativity which said

”Creativity is the power to connect the seemingly unconnected” – William Plomer.

These lines seemed to me as an answer to all my mingling thoughts. I felt innovation, intellect and creativity can help us solve stagnant and hideous challenges.

And as I reached home, I switched on my laptop and still looking for a solution I came across a video and learnt about the Savlon Healthy Chalk Sticks introduced by Savlon. After using the chalk stick, the chalk powder left behind on the hands turns into a foam cleanser. Since, there is chalk powder on the hands, a child rushes to wash his hands hurriedly, but when he watches the chalk powder turn into soap like cleanser, he rubs the soap thoroughly before rinsing it off.

This is an innovative invention to teach a child the importance of basic hygiene of washing hands.’

I felt, I felt so happy and fortunate as the Savlon Healthy Chalk Sticks, seemed to be just the creative solution to the issues of the children’s health in schools and answers that I had been looking for days now.

video link (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VVWUlWEfJ1k)

After watching this video I also was assured and satisfied to know that there are many people worried and taking action to ensure to send the street kids to school so that these young people can cherish their childhood.

Savlon and me providing, simple solution to big problems and helping the community brighten up the dreams of the future.

1,2,3,4,5 is all that you want from me, torching me is not normal.

1,2,3 no 4. 4?? Is this 4 yes 4, no. “Please I don’t want to do this!!”, please “I don’t want to do it”. Ok look at it again is it 4 or 5.it is 4 !! 1,2,3,4,5!!!

The recent video of the little girl learning 1,2,3,4,5 is disturbing and demonstrates not only a monstrous technique of imparting education but also highlights a sad reality of the our ideology of teaching children. As many times I come across this video I can’t stop myself learning about the reactions that are posted and see what the world out there has to say.

Our individual voices make the society and our personal beliefs will shape the belief structure of our society. And each time I come across couple of people saying that it is “OK or normal to be strict with children while teaching” is shocking.
I feel it is a shame that a number of people agree with the trauma the child goes through. I shed a little tear when I see the little girl suffering only to learn lousy 5 numbers, but I also wonder how many more kids go through presumably normal way of learning.

Dear parents who think it is OK or normal to mentally and physically abuse children for the sake of curriculum you need to wake up before you completely destroy the confidence and the urge in your child to learn.

Research has shown of all the bookish knowledge that an adult uses to secures a job, out of that only 10% of the theories that they learn at school or college are retained and 90% of your success depends on the person’s ability to communicate interact with the world.

There is a huge impact of the kind of positive or negative experiences they had in their lives. And if you are creating strict abusive learning environment which will negatively impact the learning experience, then don’t be surprised that your child hates the thought of homework hardly remember what they learnt last.

A study suggest, for effective learning the educator must inevitably be mindful that the process of teaching must be joyful and the emotions the child experiences will determine how much the child can retain. As being happy is key requirement for human brain to learn and store information.

So if you are saying that the child throws tantrums and hates to sit down and study, then definitely the problem is the person who is teaching because that person has failed to generate happiness in the process of learning and in this case and similar cases the teacher/ mother through their rotten methods of teaching have traumatized the child and the emotion that is linked with learning 1,2,3,4,5 is pain and suffering in the child minds.

You can’t conceal the mistakes you made through your wrongful methods of teaching by saying that the “child throws tantrums” or saying ” it for the betterment of the child”, to be beaten and tortured.

I urge such mothers and teachers to change their methods before it is too late for the child. Understand that learning encompass a vast spectrum of abilities to interact with the world and education does not only means school work!!

Bhahubali – The epic saga of the Indian way of life.

The most awaited story of the year Bhahubali has reached the streets of our towns, cities and villages. People of all ages has appraised and completely enjoyed watching the story of “Bhahubali -The most powerful invincible destroyer of evil”.

The story depicts Bhahubali’s endevours as DharmaYudha, and portrays his magnificent ways of establishing Dharma in the society for the betterment of the common mortals. The story of Bhahubali is yet again the retelling of the epics of Ramayan, Mahabratha. Where a righteous King tries to destroy the evil and is the source of happiness and prosperity for his subjects. Like every other Indian, when I watched the movie I couldn’t stop myself of being mesmerised and experiencing overwhelming joy watching victory to Bahubali.

The purpose of the story seems severe that the society celebrates his victory and a belief is spread across the nation that misery, poverty, inequality has come to an end.

Let’s understand how Bhahubali win the battle with the corrupt ruler. Bhahubali is supported by the common man. Thousand of young lads slay their lives, participating in the war as soldiers, the citizens sacrifice their comforts and unite to take part in the war. Every one in the country forgo their individual needs and stand for the nation. So many individual do this only in the hope of better life after the war is won.

Citizens irrespective of their go to the battlefield or stay back home inevitably lay a huge faith in the might and power of Bahubali, collectively praying for him and thus making him enormously powerful and strong. They all feel the saviour has come, to end injustice. And therefore it is inevitable that Bahubali will rise, the little timid boy form a far off land will have all the Bal. 

This kind of a Dharma Yudha was taken place in the epic of Ramayan, a similar events took place in Mahabharata. Were millions of common people were butchered and they lay faith in one man to change their destiny. In a belief that after the vijay of Dharma, there will be happiness in the society. Misery will end, poverty and illiteracy will end. The lowest of the people in the society, believed to be able to enjoy two square meals. The poorest had faith that they will be able to raise their standards of living.

However as we, go through the pages of the history this has never happened. After having won the Dharma Yudha each time in the times of Rama, Krishan and many other Bhahubalis. Even today a large number off the population is still living in filth! Why have we lost it? why poverty and illiteracy still prevails in the society?  I wish to ask the Bahubali’s of the Indian history why haven’t we seen a sustainable change in the standard of living of the people? why are we still struggling as the third world country?

 Or most of all why does luck favour the evil in the first? How do a handful of individuals get away with their corrupt ways of life and become so powerful?

Well the answer, to most of these questions lie in these epic themselves. The reasons behind lack of Dharma lies very much in these stories itself. The stories of Rama, Krishna and Bahubali is not about establishing Dharma, which will ensure prosperity in the society by empowering every citizen.

But the story is about making “ONE human being” the “God” the “Devta” immensely knowledgeable, powerful, the Dukharata, Palankarta. Who is capable of destroying misery and providing happens to all.

All the layman and women in the society from birth go through a psychological process of considering themselves worthless and dependent on the Dukharata for their happiness and removal of misery. The stories just like those of Bhahubali’s teach the common citizen that the cause of misery is someone else mightier, powerful and those problems can be taken care only be taken away by someone else equally powerful and mightier. The solution to their problems lies with someone else and common mortals can not do anything about it. The people are made to believe someone else will be their Dukhharta. People start to assume themselves as useless entities, unless they are guided by a supreme man, the Devata.

The Indian population has never been stories of common man being victorious in his life. Not many of the historical stories talks about individual capabilities. We are never been told that each one of us is equally capable, just like the Devata man to achieve high standards in life. We become are what stories we have learnt in our lifetimes. If we were told stories of laying same amount of faith and belief in our own capabilities rather than anyone else. We would have had a different history all together.

The citizen in the movie Bhahubali choose to suffer, yes “choose” to suffer for 25 years waiting for Bhahubali to return and help them erode their misery and suffering and save them. To take away all their pain, given by a evil King. This event really makes me wonder, a nation of few hundred thousand is waiting to seek help for ONE PERSON. Can not they collectively throw away a handful of corrupt evil Royal’s for their wrong doings? Instead they choose to wait, they accepted to be exploited at the hands of Bhalladev. Only If they had known about strength of their faith, and belief and placed it in themselves instead in the might of Bhahubali. Then, even ages before Bhahubali must have returned, the country would had got rid of the corrupt King, and might have been happier.

Instead they waited for the Dukharta, Devta, expecting someone out there to save them from the misery. The belief that kept these people bounded, and eventually weekend the whole society.

The common forgot that these Bhahubalis and Bhalladevs claimed their powers by making everyone else assume inferior and powerless. The powerful hid their mortality and weakness behind the golden doors of their palaces. Built by by the common man toiling all day long under the sun, funded by the taxes paid by the commons working in fields, roads or in offices. And namelessly dying in the battles for power for the the powerful, not Dharma.

It is time we start clearly understanding the roles of a leader, and be aware if a leader is being elevated to the standards of God!!

Yes their is a super power who has created all of the universe. But it is not the almighty’s job to keep us happy and fulfilled in our day to day lives. The almighty has blessed each individual with all the same five sense as he would bless a Devta, in the same mortal body.  And super powerful brain to think to rational and to question.

If we are going to live in the false idea waiting for the new age Bhahubali/ leaders to return and help and save the nation. Or waiting for Mahatams to take the nation to prosperity, then yet again we not getting any where.  And yet again the nation is waiting to be looted.  Because many Bhalladev’s are going to take advantage of our belief’s and fool us.

It is time individuals take action for their own pain. If their is an issue in your neighbourhood, take action, try to fix it within the neighbourhood. If there is someone corrupt and enjoying false benefits its our own duty to stop these people. Don’t wait and loose the battle, instead win it at the root. It is not just Bhahubali but each one of us capable of throwing away Bhallade’s only if we laid confidence and faith in ourselves and choose to take actions early on. Rather than waiting for some Dukharta to emerge from ashes.

 

5 basics of effective learning

Learning is an inevitable activity which starts right from birth. Active or passive we are always absorbing information and learning from our environment. Learning maintains an ever rising curve and happens throughout our lives.

We learn new things from people, places, experiences. Anything and everything we come in contact with, leaves an impression on our minds. The ideas or concepts we learn are sometimes pleasing sometimes confusing and sometimes very important and useful.

To keep up with the pace of the modern world it has become absolute necessary to learn and retain information is at a rapid pace. The human brain is processing exponential information like never before. Pick any activity to learn cook, to learn to drive, to learn to play music, to learn to make friends every time the mind is looking for effortless and successful ways of learning. Knowledge is the key to a successful happy life and learning is the door to the ocean of knowledge.

Below are outlined the 5 basics of effective and easy learnings.

1. Ensure happiness through out the learning period.

For a mind to learn and retain new concepts happiness is the key ingredient. Do not stress to learn or understand a particular concept. Remember if you are unhappy, or at discomfort or just in low spirits, then there is no productive learning taking place. Understand that the concept or subject is not being well received by the mind. learning a concept on an unhappy stressed mind is like trashing it. Teachers and mentors must always be mindful of happiness in their sessions and be creative and tactful wherever needed to ensure a successful transfer of knowledge.

2. Plan breaks or intervals:

Allocating sufficient time for breaks and intervals is vital for effective learning, breaks and time offs  helps to successfully grasp and retain the new concept. Not only plan only plan for learning time, and steps and procedures but also space time for post learning relaxation time. Relaxation time helps to detox the mind and remove the unwanted information collected in the learning session. It  refreshes the minds. Gives time for the new concept to retain in mind. Breaks help in building motivation to learn more.

3. Repeat the same concept over and over again:

Irrespective of the discipline be it sports, music, or academic repetition is unavoidable. Reading the same text, playing the same cord or practising a brush stroke over several days have immense advantages. It helps to build and lay down the foundation in the mind to learn the new discipline. It also helps strengthening the memory patterns and shifting the concept from short term memory to long term memory. Emphasising a concept for hours in a day and not revisiting again next day will, just go down the drain.

4. Recall or ask questions:

To understand and evaluate how far a concept is understood it is very important to allocate time for recall in the learning session. Active recall by asking questions helps to engage the mind in newly learnt concept and leave impressions on the mind. It helps to sustain the learning for a longer period of time. Recall helps to identify parts of the discipline which were are not understood in the recent learning session.

5. Eliminate procrastination:

Learning new concepts and discipline mostly activates pain and discomfort in the mind as it seems an unfamiliar task for the mind to perform. Most people procrastinate or give excuses to learn something absolute new or that seem alien to them.

Pain or discomfort generated by learning a new unfamiliar concept can be eliminated by convincing the mind that boring task is only going to last for a pre decided time or couple of minutes. And  they are required to give their best only for these couple of minutes. For the  limited time just focus on the steps involved in doing that task  rather than focusing on the output. The output could be defined as a particular music note, the standard of handwriting,  reading number of pages of a text book.

Focusing on the steps involved in doing the boring task rather than the output is hyper productive. Engage the mind to work on the unpleasant task  for a couple of minutes to establish comfortability with the difficult task. Gradually the pre decided times can be increased and slowly you can work your way to the output.

Big problem, Creative solutions, let’s keep sending our children to school

Every child has a story to share a song to sing. Whenever I look into their innocent eyes, I see fairytales of the future. On one such day, I narrate the songs in the little child’s eyes.

Childhood the blissful years of my life.

All I need is a big bright smile.

I jump, lay and run all day long, singing the merry go round song.

My days go by running in the meadows, hunting wild butterflies.

My favourite, is playing silly peekaboos.

Up I go in the slide trying to reach the sky.

Chasing my dreams, wearing mom’s high heels.

I walk to my school jumping in a messy water pool.

But, as soon I walk down the streets, on my way to work, I see a huge population living on the edge of the street. These people look different, we live in the same time zone yet it looks, like they live in a different decades. There are kids who are not going to school, working hard to make ends meet. I peep into these young eyes. I see a different story.

I am young, I believe I am small.

I wonder, if I really have to be in a big long factory hall.

I work all day long, in the dark tarnished room.

My heart cries for one last game of peekaboo.

If I could get a chance, out in the meadows running behind the butterflies.

Sitting under the sunshine, glancing at my soar hands and looking up in the sky.

I wonder, will I be a little child? For I was grown up even before I was five.

Dear heavenly father, if you could grant me a wish, grant me I should go back to school.

These little eyes said the same story every day and pierced my heart every time I cross pass ways with them. So, one day for my heart’s peace, I found myself talking to the children’s parents and trying to encourage them to send their kids to school and if could save even one small life from being ripped into the vicious cycle of labor and pain. I was surprised to know, a lot of them are keen on making their kids educated and ensure a good life for them. However, many of them complained that when they sent their kids to school, children ended up falling sick very often and ultimately didn’t go to school.

I wanted to learn more about this and inquired with a friend of mine, who teaches in a local government school. I couldn’t believe my ears for the reasons I discovered for children not going to school. It seemed so irrelevant to hear, but it had a huge impact. As children play, learn and write with white chalks at school. And class time is followed by meal times with no proper hand wash routine for little children. Pre-meal hand wash means only a quick rinse under the water, many children at times also tend to miss out on the rinse before eating. 

And along with their meals at school little children end up eating the germ’s and fall sick. 

And parents find it very difficult to keep up the medical expenses.

A truly disheartening fate for the future generation. The blossoming children are robbed their childhood only because of an incomplete hand wash!! After having known the reasons of dismay for children on the streets, on my way back I was still drowned in their thoughts and to looks for answer I started browsing my phone. Something struck my eyes, I came across a quote on creativity which said

”Creativity is the power to connect the seemingly unconnected” – William Plomer.

These lines seemed to me as an answer to all my mingling thoughts. I felt innovation, intellect and creativity can help us solve stagnant and hideous challenges.

And as I reached home, I switched on my laptop and still looking for a solution I came across a video and learnt about the Savlon Healthy Chalk Sticks introduced by Savlon. After using the chalk stick, the chalk powder left behind on the hands turns into a foam cleanser. Since, there is chalk powder on the hands, a child rushes to wash his hands hurriedly, but when he watches the chalk powder turn into soap like cleanser, he rubs the soap thoroughly before rinsing it off. 

This is an innovative invention to teach a child the importance of basic hygiene of washing hands.’

I felt, I felt so happy and fortunate as the Savlon Healthy Chalk Sticks, seemed to be just the creative solution to the issues of the children’s health in schools and answers that I had been looking for days now. 

video link (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VVWUlWEfJ1k

After watching this video I also was assured and satisfied to know that there are many people worried and taking action to ensure to send the street kids to school so that these young people can cherish their childhood.

Savlon and me providing, simple solution to big problems and helping the community brighten up the dreams of the future.

There is no quick fix, to a problem is there any?

 

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There are times, when we want change to happen and we want it to happen quick and fix all the issues at once.
Let me narrate you a story of understanding of the law of the “Quick Fix” solution and why on earth it never works?
I had a long awaited wedding in my family, and the preparations of the wedding had began from the day the wedding day was decided, everyone was excited and I was getting ready to pick up all our might and lose the extra kilos which I felt that now was the most critical time to lose all the unwanted love handles to look my best.
I had laid out a beautiful Quick Fix plan, as I was super busy at work so I could not find enough time to get good workout, therefore I decided to pick up a crash diet just 2 weeks before the wedding so that I can lose required weight and still look my best, I had a quick fix solution which is rather hard and tiring process in regular days. It  was a dream walk, but no sooner my dreams were turned into a nightmare when just 2 weeks before the wedding the scheduled kick off date of my diet I feel sick and there was nothing I could do to follow the diet, as I was already low on energy and the wedding was so close that I should attend the wedding irrespective if I lose weight or not, the expected still needs to be done. I had to think of a new plan and also start executing one straight away.
I decided to take the usual way out, for weight loss, eat balanced food and workout. I also was lucky that I did cut out on fried and sugary stuff for a month now which was not part of the quick fix solution.

After 4 days of sickness, I was back on my feet and I worked out for 2 hours each day an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening focusing all my energies on reducing my belly fat and my love handles. It was a limited period of intense workouts everyday in the preparations of the D day. And finally on the wedding day after dedicated workouts and eating good balance diet I managed to shed all my unwanted picture spoilers. I wore my attire and flaunted my flat abs and picture perfect body. It was a great accomplishing feeling, yet it was a fearful thought, I was worried no matter how hard I worked out in past few weeks in the intense focused sessions I will still put the unwanted weight. I was worried once the wedding fever is over at things are back to normal I will again land up at the same place from where I started. And each, in the future whenever time there will be a huge event lined up in my life I will have to go through the same rigorous process. That night bouncing between happiness sense of accomplishment and despair for the future, juggling in my thoughts  I cracked the secrets of keeping fit at all times and picture ready for any big or small events. And that was “Todays mess must be cleared before the end of the day today, not over the weekend or before any big event, today, now” and you will never end up in tiring intense workout sessions, you will feel the freedom of living your life without having the image of a trapped chicken, who worries about the few extra kilos every now and then each time a celebration  or a party comes up.
And a week later of picking up this attitude of identifying and clearing up each day’s mess that very day’s mess me realize that my my complains and unsatisfied behaviour about my looks was not because I am at a certain age or any dam reason I give myself, but I had to face it because of my inabilities to identify and distinguish between today’s calories and preexisting weight and all this bigger accumulations made me feel trapped.
So, at the end of the story I wish to outline a point that the failure in a particular task is not because of all the x factors we identify but primary because of the weak task identifying pattern and the kind of negative relationship, behaviour we have towards the said task.

Think of any problem in your life where you consider someone or something else responsible, for your backlog or failure no matter how temporary you Quick fix that issue with intended focused session like house hose clean up by intensive cleaning just before the guest arrives or, weight management where one must be learning about the food and the flaw-full behaviours towards food which leads to being obese and over weight people consider liposuction for weight loss or some magical food for weight loss. Once you Quick fix the issue be prepared for another liposuction next next year.

Or for example people who face debt or financial issues think all they problems will vanish once they a get a refinance or windfall gain,fixing it out by any other borrowing will only make the situations more worse. If one does not learn about money and cashflows and the basic ideas to manage income and expenses, soon in sometime will land up at the same place, because in the quick fix remedy process one does nothing to change the behavioural patterns, setup in ones mind. Once the quick remedy is applied you assume the problem is solved for good and go back to your routine habits which lead you again at the beginning of a similar issue that you fixed sometime ago. In other words you will have to alter your relationship with that task or issue, to avoid a new misery.

 

Finally any issue that isn’t getting solved over and again is clearly stating that the behavioural patterns which have become a part of the individual’s character, is what needs to be fixed by enhancing learning and identifying loopholes. You need to twist your thinking become innovative and change your routine to tackle the issue that you have cultivated over the years before any concrete changes happen to the issue itself, remember if you want to drop out of the loop of quick fix and problem tackling over and over again. Do not Quick fix.

Can looking good anywhere equal worship?

In the close premises of the school of my little one, is located a high school and everyday when I walk down the road that leads to his school I cross paths with numerous high school students.
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And in that brief movement when I look at them the though that strikes me is their beauty, for children of this age the “Young Adults” it is most important to look beautiful and fab. And non of them misses this point and even in their similar uniforms every one looks uniquely pretty and handsome. They look as if, camera ready to walk the ramp, instead they are walking to “High School”.

And I wonder why as adults we don’t get this point to look good, as many of the adults look shabby or poorly dressed? Because at teenage we must have got it. Let’s explore here.
At the blissful age of, “Teenage” humans get engrossed with the the idea of looking beautiful and handsome. In some young people the need to look outstanding ranks too high. So in their attempts to look picture perfect mostly draws a lot of criticism and in no time sadly are called out as “Dumb Blondes” and “Jerks”. Many young people encounter judgemental statements like “maybe he/she doesn’t do well at high school!! Seems like he/she spends most of their time in front of the mirror”. And slowly as the years go by these young people get trapped in those prejudice in order to fit into the society they undertake the transformation and sadly they lose their individuality and grow ignorant and feel too old to take care of looks.
Feeling oh dear, I am a mother I can’t really find time for my looks anymore!! Oh boy, I am a responsible man can’t spend on my looks!!
This would be a similar story for the people aged 30 and above. For all these people I want to let you know that to spend time and money on beauty and looks is not wrong, it is not against godliness and something very similar to worship of God.

Weired again !! Taking care of looks, applying makeup, visit to a hairdresser equals worship? To all the beauty parlors and salons are now termed as holy shrines, this sound really understandable.

To understand the above statement we must understand the creator and his intentions, when he created this truly blissful plant earth. All that the things that he created hold one thing in common, that every little object in the universe is uniquely beautiful.
Look at the blue waters, at the beach you can’t miss it striking beauty!
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Can you stop being mesmerised by the beauty of the bright sky and the beautiful birds, their vivid beautiful colors, the alluring toucan, the flamingo, the daffodil, the lily the snails? Isn’t the sight of a new born baby breathtaking?The apples and cherries on the trees don’t they offer a heavenly view? Anything that you name it, all that we believe is created by God is always infused with exquisite beauty.

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Everything he creates is beautiful and
STOP!! look at us, “Humans” we stop taking care of the way we look because we are trapped in the judgments of others humans and choose to go in an undesired direction. Is the creator going to be happy to see you shabby? Look into the eyes of your mother, you will see the most beautiful thing on earth.

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So what can be done? How can one break through the fears of being judged as “too old”, “too young” “too fat” “too slim” “too short” “too tall” “too dark” or “too white”. The way out is simple choose to look beautiful and “picture perfect” do not get into the traps of social judgements by friends, colleagues, or any person walking down the road, slid back into your teenage and do all the random experiments. Do all that makes you look beautiful, bolder, younger, take care of your hands, your hair, your skin, your face, wear the cowboy rugs that’s lying in your wardrobe for years and most importantly feel beautiful and only then truly beauty will equal worship since we pay our gratitude to our God for blessing us for all the beauties.

After all, that’s what means true worship to pay gratitude and remembrance to your Lord in each and every action in your life.

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Why I don’t eat the left over food on the plates of my children

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For ages we are tough that all our life activities boils down is to have “food”. The highest the greatest form of blessing could be defined, to have 3 meals on your plate. And therefore we are engraved with the idea of never to let food wasted.  And the best respect that could be paid to food would be “All food on a plate must be Eaten!”.

I have lived with this though for ages, however I have started deveating from this though and gone ahead and stopped eating the left over food from the plates of my children and have no carry forward regrets in trashing the left over food and I drain it with great satisfaction and content.
I would like to share the learning that I acquired which helped me achive a milestone change in my behavior.

To understand the idea I am going to talk in the following lines, primarily we need to expand our spectrum and look at the world being inhabited not only by humans but also other species of life like insects, animals, and many other microorganisms.
And then we must now expand the spectrum of the “respect for food” attached which we assume is limited to humans and we blindly over look the existence of any other forms of life.

“All the food on a plate must be eaten!!” But, by someone who is hungry and only then food will be able to fulfill its purpose of satisfying hunger if eaten by someone who is not actually hungry but eats it in an artificial vague to respect it, leads to food not being able to satisfy hunger, but  every over eaten bite of left over food is waste and an extra load on your system.

The food on your child’s plate does not get eaten at the first place because it is deserved by some other form of life actually meant for other microorganisms and insects which also have their share on planet earth.
But humans have overpowered all the other species to an extent that we have assumed that planet earth is inhibited only by the humans and the food on the plate will be disrespected if not eaten by superior race humans.

Lets just stop and think, if the left over food is not trashed how will it stand any chance to reach the hungry and waiting insects and earthen lives which will thrive on this food.
And not to forget to mention, that we also accumulate a curse of eating the left over food as over eating after one has satisfied hunger leads to weight gain which simply means we have overeaten someone else’s share. Someone else here could also be the hungry dragon fly.

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Why extra curricular activities? Why singing? Why swimming?

When I was just a wife, I believed being a mother would only involve taking care of the little baby and looking after his/her growth and nourishment.

However, it was only after I became a mother myself I realised the spectrum of the word “GROWTH”. It included not only academic and physical development but, it also involves life outside the academic circumference, i.e the extra curricular activities.

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I find myself doing this, every week from Monday to Saturday running from one activity to another from swimming, to tennis, to music, to arts and crafts and I see all other mothers doing the same.

I ask myself, am I getting trapped in a rat race? And am I imparting the same lesson to my child that life is a race??
I wanted to answer my conscious, therefore I decided to conducted a intensive research and finally came up with the real understanding that childhood is the time to learn and explore about the world around. According to a study conducted on childhood stimulation key to brain development shows the more the mental  stimulation a child gets closer to the age of 4 , will lead to massive development of brain and increase in problem solving ability. Children exposed to sports, music and crafts at young age tend to grow into creative adults, and have the ability for multi dimensional thinking. Here creativity is referred to an ability to find creative solutions to obscure problems in life. On the other hand, children who are not stimulated at a young age grow up to believe anything outside the academic world as alien stuff and finally conclude that maybe someone else can sing, or someone else can draw, but not “ME”.
Whereas the real reason for staying off the shore was that the little genius was never nourished and nurtured.

Therefore, I have taken a vow to help him explore the world all around him and, plant a belief that he can “Do it”, be it sports, music, arts and crafts.

And for a mother like me to keep going, I was excited to learn about the Max life Insurance – I genius singing competition for kids to make it big, which will be judged by eminent jury  Salim Merchant and Shraddha Sharma. Where the top 2 winners get an opportunity to record their first music album with Universal Music India.

By getting him involved, I want him to also learn the hidden power of goal and targets at an early age, so this little boy grows up in a superstar no matter which aspect of life he steps in.

The destiny of young child, is framed on the basis of determination of a mother.

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