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Why don’t you work – just for Timepass


The world is mindlessly jaterring and wandering every direction. Everyone seems to be a in busy bee schedule.

When I sit and think what is the most precious object I have with me and each time I get the same answer is my “TIME my LIFE”.
There could be nothing more valuable than my time sent over and never being able to get it back.

I consider myself fortunate being blessed with good education and the power to exercise free will and being able to choose.
However, whenever I hear these words from friends, family acquaintances and people around and women of similar background like me saying. ” I have kids and a loving family, I will work but only for TimePass”.

And I, equally feel a sense of great insult, when I am advised to work, so that I can keep myself busy and do some “Time Pass”.
No matter, how less time I can devise for myself after finishing up my roles of mother and wife, those precious hours or just minutes are the ones I desire for through out the day. And how can I choose to spend them mindlessly on anything and do just time pass?
The most disturbing encounters are, when I speak to my friends from my college and tell me ” My wife works, or plans to work after my kids grow up because she can do some time pass and support my income, and you know myself (male himself) I am so busy that, I don’t even have time to catch up breakfast “.

Dear men and the women who buy these ideas and words of those men, only because men choose to have a busy rushing life and are major bread winners and we females aren’t and choose not to have a similar routine so that we could take care of our kids, does not simply translate into that a women’s time is eligible for mindless spending.
It’s not only for career minded people to have targets, goals, and achievements but also for women like me.
And I believe in the thought that says “Every life has a purpose and mission to fulfill, no matter how big or small it seems”. And for that reason I do have targets, goals and purpose to live up to.

And whenever, I am be able to squeeze time to work, I will just not work for timepass, but to expand my life and work for something I love, I am mad about and enjoy the most so that my precious time seems even more sweet to me.
I, like the modern age, believe in women empowerment, but how do we plan to achieve it when women are instructed or planning to live a life for Timepass and not passion.

“A human is a product of his thoughts what he thinks he becomes” – Mahatma Gandhi.

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The change Game

Today at the Mastermind Training, I played this wonderful Game, where a person narrates a story and each time the word “change” is shouted out, the narrator has to completely change the theme of the story and continue with a new background. The activity seemed easy, however when I was actually narrating one, it was a complete mind googling experience.
On my way back, from the training, I was thinking about myself and my response to changes, and changes that have occurred in my life. I would always, cling on to my comfort zone, as most of us do.

However change is inevitable, life evolves, irrespective if you wish to or not. Changing cities, getting married, quitting job, relocating and being a parent, all are significant changes that took place in my life. And the greatest of all which I hated was relocating cities and parting from family and friends. Anyone and everyone who knew me since my childhood is certainly aware of my clinging behavior, and how much I hated moving cities and waying bye.

But, today I am a changed person, the sand beneath my feet feels eroding, but it doesn’t shakes me enough.
What is it that has changed inside me? Why I don’t feel the pain anymore? When I change cities, move away from my friends? I don’t shred a tear!! Instead I m prepared, I am happy.

Well to pen down my thoughts, it is a clear vision of a “Better Life”.
Novelty is the course of life, anything that does not flow, renews along the course and adapts to the pace of time will become rotten. If we stick, to present and hold on, nothing will blossom.

For the ” Better Life “, the clear picture, that is what I see, when we move cities, change homes, part from our family and go miles away from them. These distances are actually the stepping stones for a better future for me and for me to be able to provide better living for my loved ones.

So, now whenever, I encounter departure, I believe it must be celebrated and welcomed instead of wept for. Because departure is the beginning of a new story, and not the end of the previous one.

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5 pretend plays you must let your boys play

As parents and care takers when we think of pretend plays, we immediately categorize our children as girls and boys and then define boundaries for pretend play. These boundaries when planted in childhood get so strong that the little ones can never do away with them.
Pretend plays are kids way of living the adult world. Let’s open a universe of pretend plays for our little boys. The following pretend play for a complete development.

1. Cooking
When ever we think of pretend play and quickly categorise our children into girls and boys and draw huge boundaries for our kids and refrain boys into the kitchen premises. Cooking is an activity through which we are capable of feeding ourselves and bring peace to mind and body. Every child must learn skills to satisfy the basic needs of life irrespective of their gender.

2. Clean up
Living in a clean environment is vital for good health and life long prosperity, this can only be achieved when every child learns to clean up their own mess every time they play or spill around. The idea behind is to have a cleaner kid to have a cleaner planet. Having good clean up habits will ensure independent clean life long living.


3. Arranging things
Involving your little boys in stacking  keeping and arranging things in order leads to an amazing logical thinking. Calculating and measuring the space with sizes and shapes. These skills every child must be capable of doing by the age of 5 and boys should also have their hands on this one. By doing little stacking at home.

4. Negotiations
Like the above stated roles parents of boys must question and challenge the views of their boys instead of accepting this words as final verdict only in the grounds of being a male child. He must be encouraged to negotiate which provides a fair opportunity to boys to learn to validate and justify their opinions. Else in future he will always be short of words to talk things out. This is a life skills which will come handy in all walks or life ranging from corporate jobs to having a healthy married life.

5. Taking care
Being loved is a basic human requirement. Pretending to play as caring nurse, will not hamper his image or destroy his ego of a being a male. Learning to take care of his toys and expressing love and concern will help him grow into a loving a respecting male, rest assured these plays will make him more human.

Cast of the social transcend image and let’s nurture his childhood.

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The concept of giving choices and making decisions – a toddler’s way.


In my recent understanding and learning about being a parent, who has to nurture a child to bring out the best in him as a human being. The actions and roles played by the parents from the day one of being a parent really goes a long way in forming the character of the human being the child will grow up to be.

I recently read a few lines maybe a flyer at a nursery visit, which kept me wondering over and over again. I shall also give the meaning of few words to give a clear understanding of the lines. Which states as follows:

If a child lives with ……

1. Criticism he learns to condemn ( express complete disapproval).

2. Hostility ( unfriendliness or opposition) he learns to fight.

3. Fear, he learns to be apprehensive ( anxious or fearful that something wrong will happen)

4. Jealousy, he learns to be guilty ( responsible for wrong doing)

5. Tolerance ( willingness to tolerate the existence of options), he learns to be  patient

6. Encouragement, he learns to be confident (Sure)

7. Praise, he learns to be appreciative (showing gratitude or pleasure)

8. Acceptance ( the art of believing, a positive welcome), he learns to love

9. Approval ( the belief that someone or something is good), he learns to like himself

10. Recognition ( attention or reward ), good to have a goal.

11. Honesty ( sincerity or frankness), he learns what is truth,

12. Fairness ( exhibiting a disposition that is free of favoritism), he learns justice

13. Security, he learns to trust (to place confidence/depend on)

14. Friendliness ( warm, comforting), he learns the world is a nice place to live.

Having learnt this about child physiology and the impacts of various actions they have on childs behaviour. I adopted a few changes and made my actions a little different for the desired results. And therefore, I started talking about giving options/making decision that could be base on the rules of developing confidence, appreciation, goals.

I slowly changed my actions and words rather than just simple let’s leave for home now!, which may sound more demanding and gives a feeling of ” No, more playing” or ” you have done nothing good”. And which may lead to being apprehensive and condemn respectively.  Which will lead to sure results  of disapproval and no result situation. Now i shall say ” let’s leave for home and then you will have a better chance of playing with Mickey”. Which gives the feeling of recognition and also builds the moods for a new play i.e a new goal to look forward and the desired result is a win win situation. However being a child is not an easy thing, as the tiny little brain may not be able to understand everything and he may say a plain “No”., “I don’t want to do it”.

Caution! Dear mommy don’t get in to the “No” negotiations any you start saying ” No baby it’s time to go home, No more sweets”. You are only teaching more ways to say No. Use the act of giving choices and empowering as a handy tool. Start explaining and talking about doing things at home with Mickey or other activities which sound interesting and leads to engage the tiny little brain to imagine, think and be mesmerised and approve the idea which excites the most and follows the way back to home.

Hurray! You have achieved 2 goals as a parent you have not only made him go back home and however on the way to the process you have also tickled a little bit of tiny thinking and imagination.

In the long run as parents we have to train ourselves to train our children in their behavior. Most cases parenting is not a subject( which is the most powerful tool to shape the future of the world) which we learn at school like maths or science and know the basics rules to get the results. Therefore new parents wander from situation to situation and follow techniques which are predominantly prevailing in the family, society or among friends. Like all hit and tries some are good and some really bad.

The more the child is exposed to giving options and choices and making decisions at an early age and continue doing the same in the future, the child learns to enhance the power of thinking and take control and be more satisfied and confident. And then they are capable of thinking and looking out for options in dead lock situations future in life.

Do you remember any situation in your life, when you faced deadlock situations? How did you feel? Sometimes we do not approve the actions of our friends, maybe your bosses’ order, your teacher’s word or any situation like missing the bus, or no food at home, and many more. Many of us may feel anxious, worried or maybe so disappointed that we may not want to find a way out and just blame. And the empowered ones, who have the training of a leader since childhood of finding options will think imagine about various options of over coming the situation which looks like a dead lock to others. These people in some cases may not even experience anxiety or disapproval. Since the brain is trained to take control and exercise options/choices and making decisions.

Think about it every time you talk to yu little one. What a small tool of asking is leading in the big picture. Consider this idea as an option.