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The Incredible Power of Praise

presented by the ceo, matthew gray

Every time we interact with our children, we create a bond of love and nit the relationship with our children, the way parents speak and the words they say to them stay with them forever and creates a lifelong impression on the child.

A growing number of parents are aware about the impacts of their words leave on the children. A large number of population of parents have understood the importance of praise and have adopted to praise and motivate their children, yet the is lot more to the technique of praising children, it is not only to say ‘Wow you did a good job!’. It is the amount of praise and the way we appreciate them makes a huge difference and brings a massive difference on how they behave and deliver the best results.

Below are outlined some of  the basic and most common scenarios to praise and appreciate children and also outlining best way of communicating, that helps the little child to not only feel proud and confident about themselves but also gives them deeper understanding about their strengths and weakness.

Scenario 1:

General praise: Wow, you are  excellent at maths!

Impact: The idea that creeps into the child’s mind, through general praise maybe that he/she is excellent at maths, and do not need to focus or maybe not pay further attention in maths. These kinds of open ended sentences can maybe misleading or sometimes damaging to a child’s future ability in any particular subject.

Descriptive praise: I have noticed you have been working out hard to work out the right answers, to these problems, you have greatly improved your skills in maths.

 

Scenario 2:

General praise: You were being really amazing today!

Impact: makes a child to be self obsessed and overstating his/her own abilities. Does not give specific information on what they did well and how to repeat the good action again.

Descriptive praise: I really liked that you shared your toys with your friends and siblings, I can see that you are getting more responsible and caring, I am so happy about it.

 

Scenario 3:

General praise: You are quite active, You will be winning all the competitions on the sports day!

Impact: These praises might negatively effect the moral of children, when they do not win, and make them weak and morally vulnerable in the event of failure.

Descriptive praise: On most of the practice sessions you had a good concentration, which meant you could run fast than last time, well done!

 

Scenario 4:

General praise: You are a superstar in the class!

Impact:These praises can excessively boost moral of the child and may also lead to behavioural issues, as for little children are not completely experienced to handle vague and bogus talks. These praises also don’t give specifics to a child on his/her areas of improvements.

Descriptive praise: You pronounced the words clearly having a constant smile on your face and facing towards the audience, you looked very excited saying your lines. I loved to watch your performance.

 

Scenario 5:

General Praise: You could be an excellent painter when you grow up!

Impact: Doesn’t focus on efforts and present abilities of a child.

Descriptive praise:  You seem to have good knowledge about the colours and canvas, would you show me how to mix, these colours?

It is important that parents and carers are mindful of their praises and the idea they convey through their words. A descriptive praise is often more useful as it gives more understanding of the family values and rules, and gives children greater understanding of their weakness and areas of improvements. Descriptive praises are a powerful tool to help children become willing to accept failure and stand back up for a new challenge.

 

 

 

 

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5 basics of effective learning

Learning is an inevitable activity which starts right from birth. Active or passive we are always absorbing information and learning from our environment. Learning maintains an ever rising curve and happens throughout our lives.

We learn new things from people, places, experiences. Anything and everything we come in contact with, leaves an impression on our minds. The ideas or concepts we learn are sometimes pleasing sometimes confusing and sometimes very important and useful.

To keep up with the pace of the modern world it has become absolute necessary to learn and retain information is at a rapid pace. The human brain is processing exponential information like never before. Pick any activity to learn cook, to learn to drive, to learn to play music, to learn to make friends every time the mind is looking for effortless and successful ways of learning. Knowledge is the key to a successful happy life and learning is the door to the ocean of knowledge.

Below are outlined the 5 basics of effective and easy learnings.

1. Ensure happiness through out the learning period.

For a mind to learn and retain new concepts happiness is the key ingredient. Do not stress to learn or understand a particular concept. Remember if you are unhappy, or at discomfort or just in low spirits, then there is no productive learning taking place. Understand that the concept or subject is not being well received by the mind. learning a concept on an unhappy stressed mind is like trashing it. Teachers and mentors must always be mindful of happiness in their sessions and be creative and tactful wherever needed to ensure a successful transfer of knowledge.

2. Plan breaks or intervals:

Allocating sufficient time for breaks and intervals is vital for effective learning, breaks and time offs  helps to successfully grasp and retain the new concept. Not only plan only plan for learning time, and steps and procedures but also space time for post learning relaxation time. Relaxation time helps to detox the mind and remove the unwanted information collected in the learning session. It  refreshes the minds. Gives time for the new concept to retain in mind. Breaks help in building motivation to learn more.

3. Repeat the same concept over and over again:

Irrespective of the discipline be it sports, music, or academic repetition is unavoidable. Reading the same text, playing the same cord or practising a brush stroke over several days have immense advantages. It helps to build and lay down the foundation in the mind to learn the new discipline. It also helps strengthening the memory patterns and shifting the concept from short term memory to long term memory. Emphasising a concept for hours in a day and not revisiting again next day will, just go down the drain.

4. Recall or ask questions:

To understand and evaluate how far a concept is understood it is very important to allocate time for recall in the learning session. Active recall by asking questions helps to engage the mind in newly learnt concept and leave impressions on the mind. It helps to sustain the learning for a longer period of time. Recall helps to identify parts of the discipline which were are not understood in the recent learning session.

5. Eliminate procrastination:

Learning new concepts and discipline mostly activates pain and discomfort in the mind as it seems an unfamiliar task for the mind to perform. Most people procrastinate or give excuses to learn something absolute new or that seem alien to them.

Pain or discomfort generated by learning a new unfamiliar concept can be eliminated by convincing the mind that boring task is only going to last for a pre decided time or couple of minutes. And  they are required to give their best only for these couple of minutes. For the  limited time just focus on the steps involved in doing that task  rather than focusing on the output. The output could be defined as a particular music note, the standard of handwriting,  reading number of pages of a text book.

Focusing on the steps involved in doing the boring task rather than the output is hyper productive. Engage the mind to work on the unpleasant task  for a couple of minutes to establish comfortability with the difficult task. Gradually the pre decided times can be increased and slowly you can work your way to the output.

Why don’t you work – just for Timepass

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The world is mindlessly jaterring and wandering every direction. Everyone seems to be a in busy bee schedule.

When I sit and think what is the most precious object I have with me and each time I get the same answer is my “TIME my LIFE”.
There could be nothing more valuable than my time sent over and never being able to get it back.

I consider myself fortunate being blessed with good education and the power to exercise free will and being able to choose.
However, whenever I hear these words from friends, family acquaintances and people around and women of similar background like me saying. ” I have kids and a loving family, I will work but only for TimePass”.

And I, equally feel a sense of great insult, when I am advised to work, so that I can keep myself busy and do some “Time Pass”.
No matter, how less time I can devise for myself after finishing up my roles of mother and wife, those precious hours or just minutes are the ones I desire for through out the day. And how can I choose to spend them mindlessly on anything and do just time pass?
The most disturbing encounters are, when I speak to my friends from my college and tell me ” My wife works, or plans to work after my kids grow up because she can do some time pass and support my income, and you know myself (male himself) I am so busy that, I don’t even have time to catch up breakfast “.

Dear men and the women who buy these ideas and words of those men, only because men choose to have a busy rushing life and are major bread winners and we females aren’t and choose not to have a similar routine so that we could take care of our kids, does not simply translate into that a women’s time is eligible for mindless spending.
It’s not only for career minded people to have targets, goals, and achievements but also for women like me.
And I believe in the thought that says “Every life has a purpose and mission to fulfill, no matter how big or small it seems”. And for that reason I do have targets, goals and purpose to live up to.

And whenever, I am be able to squeeze time to work, I will just not work for timepass, but to expand my life and work for something I love, I am mad about and enjoy the most so that my precious time seems even more sweet to me.
I, like the modern age, believe in women empowerment, but how do we plan to achieve it when women are instructed or planning to live a life for Timepass and not passion.

“A human is a product of his thoughts what he thinks he becomes” – Mahatma Gandhi.

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Girls who lost their core competencies

When I flip back the pages of my life, I remember the remarkable pride I felt about myself of being educated and my universe was complete after having a job. However today I realize i was just another girl in the loosing generation of India.
Who are the loosing generation? What are we loosing and missing out??

So, let me take up an example to elaborate. How absurd does it sounds when one compares apples and oranges and say ” both are equal”. Wired isn’t it? So how does the “Modern” Indian society comes up with this though and says “both boys and girls are equal?”. To underline this statement it does not imply any form of superiority to either. In context to this article, neither the boy is more superior nor the girls inferior.
However the population born in the late 90’s was feed with various complex mind blocks, in specific the middle class girl child. She was trained to participate in a marathon to be more similar to boys. Being able to drive cars and doing jobs. Nothing more. And the basic jobs which our mothers did as carers were being regarded as unworthy and useless. Therefore no emphasis was ever laid by the mother generation to transfer skills of cooking, stitching, knitting, crafting. But these are some of the important life skills which enhance creativity, rational thinking, management skills.

Wait a moment, why there is emphasis of the girls being left behind and not the boys? Because boys are taught to be boys. Boys in this generation lead the girls they manage to improve on their core competencies of basic tool handling, driving, getting to work, and practicing a hobby or a sport. To win over us, this generation boys also started venturing into our core roles of cooking and parenting.

Now to answer the question why and how are girls loosing in competencies if they are not cooking, knitting, creativity, practicing hobby and sport? The reasons are simple, I shall explain in the following contexts
Some task of cooking, home management and creativity were degraded as why would only the girl do? Negated.
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And the remaining activities of hobby and sport were removed from our list because we are a part of a conservative reforming society which swings to and fro between modernizing and traditions and restricts girls to play a sport and express oneself.

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So the poor girls on one hand no value to their skill set and on the other hand has no option to learn only because she’s a girl. The parent generation takes superior pride in having daughters educated and manage to get jobs, however they should also take responsibility for not being able to understand the effects of robbing away the opportunities to teach the core skills of being a girl. Which caused a huge loss of learning and development opportunities for our girl generation.

And to back it up with some fact it is only the Indian middle class girls who suffers, as compared to our counter parts in world over. These mothers take pride in imparting the knowledge of home management, as each one of their daughters do well not only in academics but are also master in some sort of arts, which is an aid for independent survival.

I write this article to lay emphasis to my loosing generation to take pride to in doing all the activities which are categorized for girls and makes you more feminine, which is a celebration of being oneself.

Therefore let’s be aware about the loss we are suffering and not increase its impact on the next generation and not feed the same rigid thought to our daughters and offer a deprived childhood. And train them to be losers and dependent on maids, cooks, laundry, tailor only because the whole social system is on a roller coaster of living like a Boy.

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